As I am siting here thinking about all the opportunities that we have to share love with our mate." Sometimes we must ask ourself, "Is he that into me?" If you had to "brace yourself" before you answered; maybe there is a question on the table!

As I counsel women that are very intimate mentally, physically and verbally, it is sometimes hard for them to fnd a mate that is compatible." They normally are concerned about being overbearing in the relationship. Most women are nourishers by nature.... They give birth to nourish their baby, to feed them, to take care of them... So when they enter a relationship, they are ready to give out of that same kind of love, and men sometimes don't know what to do with all of that!" They feel as though they are back at momma's house!

How would you rate your relationship, or a relationship of the past? Do you think you were too into him? Most men my husband and I talk to, feel that their wife is too over bearing at times. I had to learn this the hard way! My husband would work "ten hours" while I was home with the kids all day! As soon as he returned home; I would start in with long conversations and head rubs." As months went on... he would gently tell me that he needed 20 minutes of private down time! Now, was I offended at first? YES! But, I quickly learned his pattern of doing things." It wasn't because he was not that into me.... it was because, I was so into him at the wrong time! 

If this doesn't apply to you great! Take the opportunity to share it with another sister that might be going through this type of situation in her relationship.

How to learn your mate ways:

1) Find out what he likes and don't like in a relationship. Maybe you are trying too hard at something, that he is not that into! Learn to fight fair! Balance can be found in anything that we put our heart and mind to do in the Lord.

2) Learn his body language! What is he really telling you when he comes home? This comes through much prayer, communication, and supplication... Learn to seek counsel in the early stages of your marriage or relationship.

3) Rather than being offended, Learn to please fairly! Every turn-off is not a denial! Become confident in your own skin! Know your worth in God.   

4) Pray, pray, and keep praying.... You must pray for the results that you wish to see in your marriage or relationship! Live as a Proverbs 31 Woman!

Women who walk in real success, know that there are certain values that we must uphold. We as women can be our biggest critic! We can be so critical about our lifestyle, dreams, visions, and promises...

As women of God, we should honor all aspects of our personality and God-Given potential. Don't wait to respond to action; Create your own movement! Know that Faith without works is dead! James 2:25+26

A successful woman always remains in a State of Expectancy! She waits on God while she is in a state of Victory and Praise! Ephesians 3:20

How to Keep a Self-Check Attitude:

1) Make the Right Choices! Choices reflect our inner value. Choices comes to us every minute of the day! It is left up to us to choose wisely... Proverbs 26:2

2) Keep a Good Reputation! Reputation is what's done when everyone is looking... Most people want the attention of the instant crowd, not the crowd that is purposed to come." Wait on your God given portion of your promise.

3) Hold to Good Character! Character is what you do when no one is watching. It is the true spirit of what's inside of you! Character shows up when temptation comes. What will you do when everyone around you is succeeding forward?" You will continue to stand on the promises of God for your life!

#Successengagers

Write the vision and make it plain." We can quote this scripture from Habakkuk 2:2 with our eyes closed. But how many of us really understand the true meaning of what is behind the text?

God spoke to Habakkuk after waiting, listening, and praying, write the vision and make it plain. Vision and goals don't come easy... They come to a person that is prepared to hear what is getting ready to be spoken. My name for this type of person is, "Ready Writer!"

As I have studied and written many journals and blogs, most responses come when I am sitting, praying and listening. I often ask God to show me His will and plan for my life. But first, I always have a pen and paper ready with anticipation for His response. No one ask a question without waiting for an answer." This is the same pattern when writing out a plan, goal, and vision for our home, career, or a family vacation. Writing is a way of figuring it all out!

Writing out a vision and plan for your life, helps us with building on the promises of God. God tells us in Psalms 37:4, that if we delight ourselves in the Lord; He will give us the desires of our heart. The bible also tells us in Matthew 6:33, to seek ye FIRST the Kingdom of God and ALL these things (our desire and needs) will be added unto us."

Today is no better time to begin setting plans, visions, and goals for your life! What was it when you were in school, and someone asked you; what do you want to be when you grow up? What caused you to quickly answer them?" You had a vision of what you wanted to be." You had already pictured in your mind, from the money you would make, to the outfit you would buy, and the house that you would live in! That same fire, that you had back then with much enthusiasm; find that girl again!

Begin to plan your life out day by day! Only this time; write it out! Say it out loud! Believe God that He will bring it to pass in it's ripe and fruitful season! Ecclesiastes 3